I also say “thanks for the update” or “thanks for the head’s up!”
“I really appreciate the head’s up!” also a classic
If I haven’t gotten back to someone in a swift enough period (i.e. one work day max) I say “thank you for your patience. after some consideration, I have decided…”
don’t apologize for piddly things!
thank you > sorry
I need to remember
thank you > sorry
Thank you for waiting for me > sorry for being late
Thank you for helping me/for your time/for listening to me > sorry for bothering you
Thanking someone when they do you a favour > apologizing for your existence
This is especially hard when you haven’t been taught that people need to respect your limits, but with a bit of practice you can absolutely get there!
One of the most challenging things I’ve had to learn is that healing must be intentional. There is no one golden day that comes and saves you from all your misery. Healing is a practice. You have to decide that it’s what you want to do and actively do it. You have to make a habit out of it. Once I learned that, I only looked back to see how far I came.